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The holidays are generally thought of as a time for potential relapse of any addiction, and sex addiction is no exception. In working to stay “sober” during this time, people suffering from sexual addiction need to be aware of triggers and to create a guide for...

It’s not my problem so why do I need help? Why does the partner of a sex addict need to get help? Many partners have found out about their partner’s sexual addiction through discovering the evidence. This discovery leaves partners in shock, confused, and filled with...

"Acting out" is moving negative emotions into addiction behavior with the purpose of not feeling those feelings. "Acting In" is trying not to 'act out' but without recovery (of the real self) which leads to feelings of deprivation and irritability. Recovery is dealing...

Often when people research, report on, or write about sexual addiction, female sex addicts are overlooked or ignored. While there are likely many reasons for this, it is in large part due to myths that we hold in our culture about women and sex addiction. Some of the...

Some people have a sex addiction because of childhood sexual abuse. The sex addiction is usually about an out of controlness (one’s power and control was taken over during the abuse) that is in their sexuality due to the sex abuse trauma. The sexual abuse traumatized...

“Why doesn’t s/he just stop when s/he knows how much it’s hurting me?” This is one of the most common questions asked by those who love someone addicted to substances and/or harmful behaviors. It might be helpful for those loved-ones to know that stopping isn’t simply...

Reading informative and sometimes challenging books on the subject of addiction can really aid in the recovery process. In my work with sex addicted men and their significant others I often recommend books that have really touched me personally.One such book is...

I often talk with people in therapy about how their sexual addiction can be seen as an intimacy disorder. This is not always true, but when it is, the sexual addiction is an attempt to get intimacy needs met, but the real needs don't get met, or some needs get met,...