Sex addiction can be seen as an intimacy disorder.  In his popular 2015 TED talk, “Everything You Think You Know about Addiction is Wrong,” journalist Johann Hari discusses research into the underlying causes of and effective treatments for addiction, ultimately concluding, “The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it’s connection.”

Basic elements of Intimacy:

  • Communication and conflict resolution skills
  • Creating healthy sex
  • Being mindful of adrenaline rush sex vs. relational sex
  • Transformation of one’s Arousal Template
  • Recommended reading: Erotic Intelligence: 4 cornerstones of Intimacy, p.7
  • Learning how to make and keep win-win agreements (rather than compromising)
  • Being mindful of and letting go of resentments
  • Cultivating healthy vulnerability