Sex Addiction and Childhood Sexual Abuse

Some people have a sex addiction because of childhood sexual abuse. The sex addiction is usually about an out of controlness (one’s power and control was taken over during the abuse) that is in their sexuality due to the sex abuse trauma. The sexual abuse traumatized...

Dopamine: why its so hard to “just say no”

“Why doesn’t s/he just stop when s/he knows how much it’s hurting me?” This is one of the most common questions asked by those who love someone addicted to substances and/or harmful behaviors. It might be helpful for those loved-ones to know that stopping isn’t simply...

thoughts on addiction and grace

Reading informative and sometimes challenging books on the subject of addiction can really aid in the recovery process. In my work with sex addicted men and their significant others I often recommend books that have really touched me personally.One such book is...

Sex Addiction and Intimacy Dissorders

I often talk with people in therapy about how their sexual addiction can be seen as an intimacy disorder. This is not always true, but when it is, the sexual addiction is an attempt to get intimacy needs met, but the real needs don’t get met, or some needs get...